Goodbye, 2025!

One of my favorite Jimmy Buffett songs includes the line: “Some of it’s magic, some it's tragic, but I had a good life all the way.” 

Looking back at 2025, it’s been filled with things that were good, things that seemed magical, things that were negative, and things that were truly tragic. 

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The magical times in my life included celebrating family milestones. In 2025, my family celebrated one of my nephews graduating from college in May, the marriage of my niece, Caroline, and her husband, Jacob, on Labor Day weekend, and the marriage of my nephew, Reagan, and his bride, Madi, this month (mid-December).  

Celebrating milestones with dear ones has definitely been a positive part of 2025!

Other positives from 2025:

I’ve spent this year enjoying my retirement. I’ve had the opportunity to volunteer, to protest, and to write.

• I participated in Mega Marcha 2025 for Bipartisan Immigration Reform in downtown Dallas.
• I called politicians regarding HB2 and the Affordable Care Act.
• I protested along with many others regarding our current administration.
• I called my Texas Representative and my Texas Senator and told them to vote NO on SB10 and SB12 and explained why they aren't in the best interest of Texans.
• Why do I bother? I'll confess that I'm one of the fortunate ones: a retired, middle-class, middle-aged, straight, white woman who was born in this country.  So that is why I MUST bother! Those of us who are fortunate need to stand up for those who are not. We need to advocate for the marginalized. 

I started this blog in February 2025. My word for 2025 was WRITE, and this blog is a way for me to publish some of my writing. My plan was to write on a regular basis, and, other than August and September, I did publish at least once a month. Hopefully, I’ll improve upon that in 2026 and not miss a month.

I’ve also started substitute teaching this year, and I really enjoy it. I needed a year outside of education to rest and catch my breath, but in August 2025, I started subbing, and it’s been great. I love that I set my own schedule and the district I sub for is great!

This year, I joined a United Methodist church that I feel like I can trust. I’ve been attending for a few years now, so  I finally joined it this year. It’s a good thing! (Side note: I actually read the entire Bible, front to back, for the first time this year….what an ODD BOOK! Perhaps, I'll write about that at another time.) 

Another major change this year is that I FINALLY stopped eating what I refer to as  “recreational sugar” again. It’s definitely my drug of choice, and when I stay away from it, I’m much more under control food-wise. However, even a little recreational sugar is a trigger for me. I stopped eating it on January 1st of this year. Other than special occasions, I’ve avoided “recreational sugar” all year and lost 48 pounds.  My goal is to lose more, but it’s good to know that I’ve started. 

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Nationally, there have been some very tragic times this year. 

• The July 4th flash-flooding killed over 130 people in the Texas Hill Country.
•  There is now a prison in Florida called Alligator Alcatraz where people have had their pictures taken in front of its sign and laughed about the concept of humans being eaten by alligators.
• Humanitarian concerns regarding the immigration crisis, women's rights, lgbtq+ rights, etc. continue in our country.
• The government was shutdown for an extended amount of time which caused many people who depended upon the goverment for assistance to go without paychecks and/or food, etc.
• Many people lost their goverment jobs this year.
• Our nation remains so politically divided that Americans argue with each other about the way that living beings are treated.

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Keep swimming in 2026.

When the news is filled with tragedy, turmoil, and trauma, it’s so easy to want to give up and just ignore everything. 

But, we need to keep swimming.

Keep going. 

Keep following our paths. 

Whatever that path might be. 

Keep swimming and encourage others. 

Keep using our strengths to help society. 

Keep speaking up and speaking out. 

We need to keep swimming and stick together. 

Each of us has strengths that are much-needed by society. Of course, it’s important to practice self-care, but please don’t give up. Use your strengths to help society and never forget to keep swimming.

November

November is all about being thankful, and I am thankful.

• Thankful for the time to write a blog.
• Thankful to be retired, so I can travel when I want.
• Thankful to have a part-time job that I enjoy.
• Thankful for dear ones-friends and family.
• Thankful for a church that I love.
• Thankful for health insurance because this has been a year when I’ve been dealing with some health issues.

November is, also, a time when the holiday season is in full swing. For some people the holidays are a Hallmark time of year. However, for so many people, the holiday season can bring both joy and sorrow, and it's important to acknowledge those emotions. It's healthy to be honest about what you're feeling. It's healthy to have boundaries and to participate in the activites that you enjoy while, also, allowing yourself to avoid any events that don't feel healthy for you. Please allow yourself to have a holiday season in which you allow yourself to have boundaries and take care of yourself. I truly hope you all have a happy holiday season!

 

57

It’s been awhile. 

My word for 2025 is “Write” and for at least 6 months, I was writing on a regular basis. I even started this blog: Vicki’s Writing Nook. However, it’s been awhile since I added to this blog. When I’ve asked myself why I stopped writing, it keeps coming back to the fact that I'm just so tired of writing about politics, but that’s what’s been on my mind lately. So I just stopped writing. Should I have? Who knows... 

Today is my birthday. Not a biggie. It’s just 57. No, not 6-7. Ha Ha! Just 5-7. However, I tend to look back on my life on my birthday and contemplate to see what, if anything, has changed. 

I’d say that I’ve spent the last year enjoying my retirement because I’ve had the opportunity to volunteer, to protest, and to write. Three things that I enjoy. 

Most of my volunteering has been at church. Last October, I had the opportunity to volunteer when the Kindergarteners came for their field trips to the church’s Pumpkin Patch. Such fun days! If you live near Frisco, it’s definitely worth visiting Grace Avenue’s Pumpkins on the Prairie during the month of October. Another one of my volunteer opportunities was this past summer when I was able to spend two weeks at Grace Avenue’s Vacation Bible Camp and one week at Grace Avenue’s Science Camp. 

In addition to spending lots of time at the church's Pumpkin Patch last year, I spent the end of October and the first few days of November working at the election polls. That was pretty intense. We all know the results now, but it was fascinating watching it all take place. We weren't supposed to indicate who we voted for, but some of the workers didn't keep it a secret. Talk about making things uncomfortable! My favorite part was celebrating with the people who were voting for the first time. One scary thing did happen when I wasn't on shift: someone came in and demanded the right to vote even though they didn't have that right for whatever reason. Evidently, it got pretty intense but everybody was kept safe. Overall, I really enjoyed working the polls last year and met some great people. Unfortunately, or fortunately depending on how crazy politics have become, I'm too busy to work the polls this year.

Another major opportunity that I’ve had this past year: Protesting. Turns out, I enjoy it because it’s a way to let people in our community know that they are not alone. Those who drive by who may not feel that the North Texas suburbs support those on the margins can feel more supported when they see people protesting for their rights. I feel like it’s my responsibility to speak on behalf of those who are poor, those who are jobless, those who are homeless, those who seek safety for themselves and their children, and for all who are marginalized.  It amazes me how many people honk and wave when they drive by. Of course there are always a few “fine Christian Nationalists” who use other finger signs, but that’s between them and the god they claim to know. This spring, I participated in the Mega March 2025 in downtown Dallas for immigrants, and I’ve protested several times for the rights of all people. One of my favorite protests was No Kings Day on June 14th. While I definitely understand that marching and protesting alone won’t make a difference, it is a great way to show my support and let others know that we are not alone in this country. 

Love your neighbor as yourself. Mark 12:31

Finally, I’ve spent lots of time writing this year. It’s been fun writing this blog. However, as I stated earlier, as politics became so much more intense, writing became painful because I like my writing to be honest, and so much of what I've been thinking about has been focused on what has been happening in the world. Finally, I just got so tired of writing about what was going wrong. So I just stopped. But, it didn't make me happy. I need to start writing on a regular basis again.

New things this year:

I joined a Methodist church. It’s been a while! When I was in my twenties, I left my home church after lots of harmful church experiences. However, after years of therapy and lots of studying, I found a church that I feel like I can trust- a church that seems to honor all humanity. So a few months ago,  I finally joined it. It’s a good thing! I'm enjoying that type of community again.

I’m working again. Now, I’m a substitute teacher, and I really enjoy it. It seems like I needed a year outside of education to just take a breather, but this August, I started subbing, and it’s been great. I could work almost everyday if I wanted to because there seems to be jobs available most days. 

Lessons I’ve learned as a sub: 

• I prefer secondary (middle school and high school) classes. I subbed ONE day in the elementary classroom and realized that when I was an elementary school counselor, it was fun because I only spent a brief amount of time with a full classroom of younger students while I was teaching them a guidance lesson, but when you’re a substitute teacher, you’re with the same group of young humans for the majority of the school day, and that’s A LOT! Prior to becoming a school counselor, I taught middle school and high school, so I think that’s what I’m used to because I definitely prefer having the students for a portion of the day rather than having one group all day long. I suspect they feel the same way about me, too.  

• Most of the time, students are using technology to support their  learning. It’s nice. They were raised on it, so the main thing I have to do when I’m subbing is make sure they are focused on the lesson objectives and not using their technology for an off-task purpose. 

• I love the district where I’m subbing! I’m a “preferred sub”for three campuses so far, and the sub app is easy to use.  The staff and teachers are very welcoming and supportive, and most of the students are easy to work with. Subbing was a good choice for me!

I guess the other major change this year is that I finally….FINALLY stopped eating what I refer to as “recreational sugar” again. It’s definitely my drug of choice, and when I stay away from it, I’m much more under control food-wise. However, even a little recreational sugar is a trigger for me. I stopped eating it on January 1st of this year. Other than my niece’s wedding weekend, I’ve been sugar-free, and I’ve now lost 45 pounds.  My goal is to lose more, but it’s good to know that I’ve started. 

So, 56 has been a pretty full year: retirement, volunteering, protesting, writing, subbing, and getting just a little bit healthier. 

Here’s to 57! May it be a good year!

Keep Swimming

It’s been a hard summer. The July 4th flash-flooding killed over 130 people in the Texas Hill Country. Our nation remains so politically divided that Americans argue with each other about the way that living beings are treated. There is now a prison in Florida called Alligator Alcatraz where people have their pictures taken in front of its sign and laugh about the concept of humans being eaten by alligators. Humanitarian concerns re: the immigration crisis, women's rights, lgbtq+ rights, etc. continue in our country. Texas is now facing possible gerrymandering. International reports about war and starvation in Gaza are non-stop. It’s overwhelming.  

I go to church for a variety of reasons. For one thing, the Sunday sermons tend to provide such insight for the week to come. If I don’t make it to church in-person, I try to watch the service online when I get time. I’m learning a lot during my church’s current summer sermon series: Lights, Camera, Action! This is how the Worship Guide describes it: Every great film begins with a spotlight, a lens, and a moment when the director says, “Action!” The “Lights” help us notice what needs our attention. The “Camera” reminds us that before action, there’s preparation. And when God calls “Action,” we’re invited to step into our roles. Each week of this summer series, a different pastor will bring a favorite film alongside a biblical text to explore how stories can inspire us to see, prepare, and act with faith. From Field of Dreams to Finding Nemo, these films help us reimagine what it means to be the Church and remind us that we are each a character with a part to play.

Pastor Christopher focused on the movie Encanto. He did a great job using that movie to make several points. What really stood out to me was that we all have areas of strength that we can use to help others. It’s so important to discover and use our strengths even if they’re different than the strengths of others. Pastor Christopher encouraged each of us to remember that society needs each of us to use our strengths even if we don’t think our strengths matter. This really made me think. Such a good sermon!


Pastor Jessica’s movie was Finding Nemo, and I was reminded of two words: Keep Swimming! That phrase is said over and over during Finding Nemo. I think it needs to be said over and over right now.  During this time when the news is filled with constant tragedy, constant turmoil, and constant trauma, it’s so easy to want to give up and just ignore everything. But that’s not what we’re supposed to do. We need to keep swimming. Keep going. Keep following our paths. Whatever that path might be. Keep swimming and encourage others to keep swimming. Keep using our strengths to help society. Keep speaking up and speaking out. We need to keep swimming and stick together. 

Each of us has strengths that are necessary and much-needed by society. Of course, it’s important to practice self-care, but please don’t give up. Use your strengths to help society and never forget to Keep Swimming!

Character Strengths

Stand in the Gaps

What a week it’s been.

On July 3rd,  Congress passed the H.R.1 - One Big Beautiful Bill Act which:

• funds the border wall, deportations, and a missile shield

• Includes deep cuts to Medicaid and SNAP in order to fund the bill’s tax breaks and spending

• slashes clean energy tax credits

• could add $3.3 trillion to deficit

On July 4th, deadly flash flooding began in Texas. The losses across the Texas Hill Country and at Camp Mystic are making so many of us feel helpless. As of Sunday, July 6th, the death toll has risen to 82 people and 8 campers are still missing. 

I grew up in church, so I’m used to people praying before meals and praying for those who are going through tough times. However, to be honest, prayer doesn’t always seem like enough to me, so what are we supposed to do when disaster happens? When so many are hurting? When the world seems to be falling apart?

I feel powerless right now, and I have to admit that I didn’t make it to church this morning. However, I’m so thankful that I watched today’s service online because Pastor Billy’s sermon was exactly what I needed to hear. It really helped me get some clarity on what it means to be the "hands and feet of Christ” during times of conflict, destruction, and loss.

During his sermon, Pastor Billy said, “When there’s brokenness in the world, God calls upon the servants to stand in the gaps, and that’s how healing is accomplished.” What does the term stand in the gaps mean? How do we stand in the gaps? According to Pastor Billy, there are some concrete ways to stand in the gaps for others:

• Pray for others. 

• Advocate for justice for the vulnerable

• Offer our presence and support for those in difficult situations

• Be a bridge between those who are broken and those who need to experience real hope in their lives

Of course, Pastor Billy’s sermon went much more spiritually in-depth than this blog, but I’m so thankful that I watched the service today because it encouraged me to continue advocating for the vulnerable, to look for ways to support those who are in difficult situations, and to always try to be a bridge so the broken can find real hope. 

In order to advocate for justice for the vulnerable, I will continue to protest, continue to march, continue to vote, continue to contact my politicians, continue to make my voice heard. I’m, also, working with a local group to try and get like-minded people to run for office. Protesting and marching are fun, but there’s work to be done, so please see what you can do to help out. 

One of the ways to offer our presence and support for those in difficult situations right now is by donating to support those who are dealing with the devastating floods. Info and links are below. 

1) The Community Foundation of the TX Hill Country's Kerr County Flood Relief Fund: https://cftexashillcountry.fcsuite.com/.../create/fund...

2) The Central & South Texas chapter of the American Red Cross is offering disaster relief including financial assistance, shelter, and support. Put "Guadalupe River/Kerr County Flood" or "TX Hill Country Chapter” in the memo/designation field.

https://www.redcross.org/.../central-and-south-texas.html

3) Where to donate near Austin:

https://www.statesman.com/.../how-to-help.../84479206007/

The first week of July 2025 will definitely go down in history. As you look back a year from now, hopefully, you’ll be able to say that you helped make a difference during a time when many were giving up. Please allow yourself to be an advocate for the marginalized, a support for those who are suffering, and help build a bridge between those who are broken and those who need to experience real hope in their lives.

My 12th Brainiversary

12 years ago today, I had brain surgery. For some, that might seem like a scary thing to think about, to hear, to experience. Looking back, I probably should have been more nervous than I was at the time. However, my life had been pretty frightening for many years prior to that brain surgery. You see, I'd been dealing with a brain issue that neurologists were unable to control with medication. Despite my initial resistance, family and friends eventually convinced me to have the surgery. Since today is my 12th Brainiversary, I'm including previous "Brain" entries which best describe my journey. 

*The Worst Job Interview

In 2006, my career resume' included the following:

• High School English Teacher

• Middle School English Teacher

• Campus Teacher of the Year

• Writing Workshop presenter

• ELA Department Chair

But in 2013, I had brain surgery.

Turns out that my brain (which used to function fairly well) has a bit of a defect.

In 2006, smack dab in the middle of an important job interview with people that I knew quite well, I “zoned out”, and the next thing I knew, EMS was in the interview room with me trying to figure out what the hell was happening to me.

You see, in the middle of that job interview, my words stopped making sense, I grabbed my purse, pulled pictures of my young niece and nephew out of my wallet, proudly spread their pictures out on the table, and began showing them to my interviewers. Well, at least, that’s what the interviewers told me. You see, I don't remember any of that. Nothing at all.

Up until that day, my only understanding of a seizure was that it caused people to fall on the floor, writhe, and bite their tongues, but I was so wrong. So incredibly wrong.

On that lovely spring day in 2006, my life changed in a way that both pissed me off and terrified me. The 'naming' took several months, various doctor visits, and way too many medical tests, but I was eventually diagnosed with complex/partial seizures originating from the hippocampus in my left temporal lobe.

*Southern Hair & Seizures

Now that I've described the type of seizures that I began having in 2006: complex/partial seizures that drastically changed my life, it's time to focus on what really matters...Southern hair!

I was raised in Texas: home perms, hairspray, and highlights. So, when the time came to decide whether or not to have brain surgery (because my medication stopped working, and I totaled my car), I refused to even consider it because I didn’t want to have my head shaved. You should have seen the look on my neurologist’s face. I guess he’d never had a patient refuse life-changing surgery in order to keep her hair.

After hours of tearful discussions with family and friends, I finally agreed to brain surgery because, in order to improve my standard of living, my left hippocampus had to be removed. Fortunately, my neurosurgeon did understand the importance of Southern hair, and the normally 3 ½ hour surgery took him an extra 45 minutes just so he wouldn’t have to remove much of my hair. Now, that's a sensitive surgeon!

 

Yay, they only had to shave a little bit of my hair!

(Oops! I forgot to smile in these pics!)

6 weeks later, it was time for my checkup with my epileptologist Dr. Harvey (whom I highly recommend). He walked into the room and broke into a smile when he saw that I still had lots of hair. In fact, he actually invited another neurologist into the room just to show him. I suspect that I may have raised the respect for Southern hair in the neurological community!

Seriously, I’m so thankful to live in a part of the nation that has such an amazing medical community. My neurologist and neurosurgeon are among the best in the country, and I’m fortunate enough to have them in Dallas.

*Life in the Passenger Seat

I wrote this entry in 2013, 7 months post-surgery: Southern females tend to be taught to never show anger. Just smile and be polite. Well, I’ve had enough. It’s now been 8 years since my first complex/partial seizure, and during the last 3 years, I’ve driven a total of 6 months. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

To the outside world, I’m doing great because I live close to family and friends who are more than willing to help me. They take me to and from work during the week, to the grocery store on the weekends, and they will do anything else I ask them to do. If I need anything, all I have to do is text or call someone. They are more than willing, but I know that I’m asking someone to stop whatever they’re doing in their own lives just to take care of me--to take me to the grocery store, so I can get the toilet paper that I forgot to pick up during the weekend grocery shopping trip. (Oh, damn it, I just realized that I’m out of lightbulbs, and I refuse to ask for another ride, so I’ll just wait until next weekend because I guess I don't really NEED to use the lamp beside my reading chair.)

I’m sorry; what’d you say? Just text Uber or Lyft. Oh, you’re absolutely right. Not being able to drive is a trivial inconvenience, a First World Problem. I’m ungrateful and just need to learn to keep a better grocery list. After all, I’m lucky to have family and friends willing to go out of their way to take care of me because lots of people don’t. Yep, you’re right; it’s a good life. Why should I be upset? I’m 45-years-old and have to text Uber or ask others to take me to get toilet paper if I'm about to run out. I have to inconvenience others because I can't take care of myself. Why should I be upset?

In June 2013, I had brain surgery because my anti-seizure meds stopped working AGAIN, and it was time to remove my left hippocampus. The surgery went well, so last November, I was finally able to start driving again. Life was good! I was excited and began making plans for the future. I even registered to start my master’s degree! But a month ago, the nightmare returned when I had a seizure while driving and had ANOTHER wreck. Totaled ANOTHER car!

However, something has changed inside of me this time, and I’m breaking lots of Southern girl rules by actually showing that I’m angry. My friends and family seem worried because I’ve made it clear that I’m not going to live my life in the” passenger seat” anymore. I refuse to merely exist in a life dependent on others. I’m taking my life back. Hopefully, I’ll be seizure free and driving again very soon. If not, I may need to leave my life of suburbs with driveways and move to a life of cities with public transportation. Although the DFW area claims to have public transportation, it’s not very convenient, so I may have to move away from all that I know, in order to get my life back.

Yes, I suspect that some of you now consider me to be a truly shallow person, but I hope that some of you understand the anger and frustration that occurs when independent people are forced to depend on others. You know what it's like to feel that ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

**Breakthrough Seizure

I originally wrote this in April 2025: I had a breakthrough seizure this week. It’s been nearly a year since my last seizure. 11 months actually. The last seizure I had was May 7, 2024.

So frustrating! I mean I know that it doesn’t constantly happen, but it keeps happening! It’s been nearly 12 years since my brain surgery. I’m so thankful that I had the opportunity to have brain surgery because I was having 2-3 seizures a MONTH, and now I’m only having about one a YEAR, but I’m still having one seizure about every year. So frustrating! So disappointing…

Plus post-seizure, the headache is horrendous and can last for a couple of days. This one sure did. Probably a migraine. 

Questions I always have to ask myself post-seizure:

• Have I missed any meds? I don’t think so.

• Am I sleep deprived? No

• Have I had any alcohol? No

• Have I had too much caffeine? Probably

• Am I overly stressed? Have you paid any attention to the news?!

I started having complex/partial seizures when I was 37, so it’s been about 19 years since I first started having seizures, and it never gets easier. It never seems to make sense. Why do meds work for some people but not for others? Why does surgery work for some people but not for others? These are the questions that I keep asking because I had surgery to have my left hippocampus removed (pic below), and I continue to take anti-seizure meds, but I still have occasional breakthrough seizures.  

Well, now you know what my thought processes are like after I’ve had a breakthrough seizure. Probably WAY more than you ever wanted to know. However, if you are still reading, thank you for being a part of my world.

This is a current pic of my post-surgery brain: 

 

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It's been 19 years since my first seizure and 12 years since I had brain surgery. Now that I'm a retired school counselor, I've had time to write about this particular journey and so much more. There have been good times, bad times, and lots of in-between times. Some of you have been there for me since the very beginning. Lots of you have joined my journey along the way. Thank you all for your support. Much love to you all.

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*The original version of this story was posted in my Southern Hair & Seizures Blog.

**This was originally published in May 2025